What I Learned From Love, Loss and Moving Forward 

I remember one year ago exactly, I was laying on my floor in Costa Rica, in a pile of my clothes, packing up my life and crying my heart out. 

I remember thinking about the saying, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” and thinking that whoever said that was crazy; that heartbreak was the worst pain I had ever felt and that I would never wish it on my worst enemy. 

I also remember thinking about the saying, “If you love something, set it free, and if it comes back it was meant to be.” I knew I was being released because someone loved me enough to let me go; to let me fly and achieve my dreams. I also knew deep down that I couldn’t stay in Costa Rica without first pursuing my dream of world travel. 

But holy sh*t did it hurt like hell to leave a life I loved. 

Flash forward one year. I’m here to tell you that life goes on! Time heals wounds

Sure, heartbreak is still the worst pain I have ever felt, and I still wouldn’t wish it oh my worst enemy, but I now agree that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. 

I learned so much from that love that has helped me to become a better person, and I have taken this on to share with others

I learned compassion, for both myself and others. I learned to look at the world with open eyes and embrace the beautiful flaws. And when it comes to my own imperfections, I remember that if someone out there could love those things about me, then I should certainly love them too. 

I learned to relish the moments of cultural exchange, where I can teach and learn and grow from each interaction. 

I learned that having a childlike curiosity keeps you both interested and interesting. Ask questions. You start to realize you don’t know what you don’t know. It keeps you in a state where you are constantly learning and growing. 

I learned to care for my health, and to develop my spirituality. Both of these have served as beacons which guide me in the best direction for my life. 

I learned to flourish in a life of Spanglish, which in turn opened up a whole new sector of the world. 

I learned to help others, and to give and to give, and to give some more. 

I learned to never settle. There are people out there who help you to be the best you can be. Seek them out and hold yourself up to these standards.
I learned so much from that love, and for that, I will be eternally grateful

Eventually, I was able to pick myself back up, dust myself off, pat myself on the back and continue on down my own trail. Did I look back? Yes, far too many times. But now I am looking forward again, and as the song says, the future’s so bright, I gotta wear shades


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